Usually I am unaware of celebrity birthdays until they have passed. Well this week was different. I happened to turn to KISS 98.7 FM for the midday jams (it's the only time I listen to commercial radio). All week they have been playing music from Aretha, Stephanie and Diana. Needless to say I was excited. I love them all. I can't pick a favorite out of the three because they each brought something different. Diana brought the super fabulousness and hair. Aretha has the big, beautiful voice that could make Chuck Norris cry (see what I did, lol). Stephanie, is just something else. Her voice is serious and it's always shocking because she is so petite. LOVES HER...Maybe I do have a favorite :).
***Memory: I grew up listening to WBLS and KISS (if you are not from NY, they are urban adult contemporary stations that play LOTS of oldschool). I don't remember how old I was, but I remember calling and actually getting through to speak to Lenny Green (swoon) and requesting Stephanie's "Feel The Fire." He asked how old I was (maybe I was 15) and he said "What do you know about feeling the fire?" I responded "I just know good music."***
Since I haven't blogged in a little while, I figured I would give them a shout and share the wealth of music.
You can also check out The Cocoa Luv Chronicles tonight from 7-8 on www.wbmbradio.com.
Stephanie Mills b. March 22, 1957 Feel The Fire - Live
This blog stems from a conversation that I had with my “bro”. I casually (but seriously) asked him if his new girl friend had any single male friends. I haven't met anyone new in a while and since I don’t go out often, nor work in a place with suitable men and happen to be VERY shy when it comes to strangers of the male variety; I found this to be a good option. Or so I thought…
I’m not sure how we began talking about my “list,” but I am pretty sure that it went a long the lines of him asking what I was looking for and me supplying the rundown. Now, before I go on, I want to say that I’m realistic enough to know that any guy I meet is not going to have all of the traits that I like. Many of the traits I were joking about, one especially was about guys falling within a specific astrological sign. He wanted to end the conversation after that but I reassured him that I am not THAT bonkers. I have some dealbreakers, but that’s not one of them. Hell, I have been after a Sagittarius since forever and I KNOW that it would never work.
After a while I told him that he should just read my top 10 list of Turn Offs so that he can get an idea. I don’t have anything so harsh up there that would make me seem like I’m unrealistic. Is it a crime that I don’t want to deal with someone that smokes cigarettes, has homo-sexual tendencies, or is unmotivated to do anything? No, I don’t think so. Of course the real mistake that I made was asking him and not going straight to her. I’m sure he twisted EVERYTHING that I said to her when they spoke about my singledom. I told him that I’m not necessarily looking for a boyfriend/husband but a damn date. Maybe I should not have went on and on about a “list,” but F it, he asked.
So the next day I asked what the deal was, would I be setting some dates up and then he hit me with “She has some words for you.” All I could think was, “Oh boy, he done twisted some ish up and now she thinks I’m crazy or naïve.” When I told him about this “list” I explained to him that this is what a matchmaker does. They weed out the unsuitable prospects for the people that they are matching. If I were making an account on match.com, e-harmony.com, blackpeoplemeet.com etc, they would ask me even more specific questions.
I still don’t think I’m wrong. He asked me about looks, I said as long as I find them nice looking. He asked whether I preferred light skin v dark skin, I said, nope doesn’t matter. He asked about money, I said as long as they have a job, he countered that statement with “the economy, blah blah blah.” So I retracted my initial statement and said well he has to want something out of life and not sit on his ass all day. Once again I ask where am I wrong? Why do I need to get “words?”
Because he has a flair for the dramatic, I am going to say that he didn’t tell her about the details of the “list” but that I have a supposed “list.” The funny thing is I don’t have a LIST. I just know what I like and what I am willing to tolerate in a mate. Guys will definitely have their questions about me. I find that they are pickier than we are. We put up with WAY more ish than they do that’s for sure…or maybe that’s just me. Besides, I don’t need a book to tell me if someone is not that into me. I am good at reading people and seeing the signs that are in front of me. It's just a matter of taking heed ot those signs. I am the only one that can make the decision of wanting to “get with it or get lost.” I don’t or try not to play games so I don’t need to read The Rules. Games lead to drama, and I don’t do drama. Anything that Steve Harvey has to say about dating, I’ve heard before. Now, don’t get me wrong, reading those books are good for people that are looking for the answers that they already have but want further confirmation (not to say that if you do read them, there is something the matter with you, but I don’t really get into self-help books). I know enough about myself to know that nine times out of ten I’m pretty much not going to follow the words. I’m going to follow my heart and use what I learned from ALL of the mistakes that I made in the past. Now my question is, what words could someone have for me that I haven’t heard before?
I’m off the soapbox and no I am not proclaiming to know everything. My singledom is mostly by choice. I’m not getting in the way of my own happiness. I just know what’s good for me.
Thanks to all that read today and yesterday and I hope that you continue in the future.
I know that it has been quite sometime, but as you can see, I have been a little busy. I am trying my hand at something new. In order for me to really take this new venture seriously, I had to make some investments, that I will hopefully get an ROI (return of investment) on.
If you look below you will see some behind the scenes footage of the photoshoot that I did with my friend, Super Duper photographer Rayon Richards. I did three different looks and over the course of harassing him, I finally settled on the date and magic was made.
As usual thank you for taking the time to check me out. I do appreciate it... I will definitely thank you when I accept my Emmy, SAG, TONY, RAZZIE (lol), Oscar etc.
The Process: The best thing about this shoot was the shopping. I mostly window shopped, and visited blogs looking for celebrity inspiration. I came across one look that I loved and it was sported by Amber Rose (Kanye's new boo). She was sporting some red disco pants from American Apparel, a white tee and a fly leather jacket. When I went to try the pants on, I soon found that my calves were too big for those itty bitty pants so I nearly gave up on the look until I stepped in H&M and I found the red pants that you see in the second look.
The black dress in the last look was something that I purchased on sale a while ago. I had no idea where I would wear it, but after a weekend of watching some movies from the 40's and 50's I was inspired once again. The flower and pearls came after when I needed something to finish the look.
I know that I asked everyone I know which looks I should do, and being the indecisive Cancer that I am, I changed my mind 50-11 times. When it came down to it, I wanted to look like me, but glamified.
So without further ado, behind the scenes of my very first photo shoot.
This is such a cute idea. It took me a while to get around to doing it, but I do want to send a thanks out to Blaq Vixen Beauty for thinking enough to nominate me. Because she thought of me, I would like to pass it along to other bloggers that I do devour on a daily,weekly,monthly basis. So here goes:
The Rules: 1. Put the logo on your blog or post. 2. Nominate at least 10 blogs which show great Attitude and/or Gratitude! 3. Be sure to link to your nominees within your post. 4. Let them know that they have received this award by commenting on their blog. 5. Share the love and link to this post and to the person from whom you received your award.
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